# Unable to start a Romance? **URL:** \ **Category:** Bug Reports\ **Tags:** family, interaction\ **Created:** [January 24, 2026, 11:17pm UTC](https://forum.playinzoi.com/t/topic/9498 "2026-01-24T23:17:27Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Rickie](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/krafton/user_avatar/forum.playinzoi.com/rickie/32/10467_2.png) [@Rickie](https://forum.playinzoi.com/u/Rickie)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2026, 11:17pm UTC](https://forum.playinzoi.com/t/topic/9498/1 "2026-01-24T23:17:27Z")
> - **Game Version** : > > - **Platform** : (Steam windows / Steam Mac / Mac) > > - **Mods** : (Choose one: never used / removed / active) > šŸ“If you have used mods before, please list them: > > - **Hardware Specifications & Operating System** (OS version, CPU, GPU, RAM, storageā€¦): > > - **Steps to Reproduce:** - **Please provide the entire save file(s) from the date when the issue occurred.** šŸ“ Instruction: [How to Send User Files to The inZOI Team (Updated)](https://forum.playinzoi.com/t/how-to-send-user-files-to-the-inzoi-team-updated/57) - **Details:** šŸ“ Please share the date, error message, or screenshots/videos for issue verification. 20260114.9803.w, none, i9-11900K, 64GB Ram, RTX3090, 4TB SSds. Unable to start a romance Two house mates (not related) Young man and woman. I have trying hard to start up a romance between them, but I cant seem to make any progress? It was very easy in Sims 4. They are long life friends, trust each other, always complimentary and positive to each other. They even sleep together in same bed. But I cant find how to get them romantic? Man control, click on woman (or woman to man), all the same activity list, but no Romance in the list? Affection is in list, but Nothing to indicate to start a romance, unable to rest the heads on each other, a box comes up, to choose a zoi but the house mate is not listed? Why? This has been going on for 7 Inzoi days. PLEASE, how do you start a romance. I am frustrated. And from the expression on the 2 zoiā€™s, they are too.!? Thanks for reply. I have checked both male & female. Both ā€˜Interested in romantic relationā€™ are checked . Male to Female, checked. Female to male checked. This has to be serious bug on the game. If I cant rectify this soon, then as far as I am concerned, I will ditch InZoi and go back to Sims 4. There is no point in playing the game if you cant begin a romance! Maybe change this post to bugs? ---
**Author:** ![JoyIsFunner](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/krafton/user_avatar/forum.playinzoi.com/joyisfunner/32/8276_2.png) [@JoyIsFunner](https://forum.playinzoi.com/u/JoyIsFunner)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2026, 1:36am UTC](https://forum.playinzoi.com/t/topic/9498/2 "2026-01-25T01:36:19Z")
Itā€™s their characteristics/traits I had two zois romanced and got married with no problem, then on a new game I had two zios that no matter what theyā€™d never romance because of some characteristics (which is stupid) inZOI needs to fix this though simply because anyone can fall in love regardless of their characteristics ---
**Author:** ![LennyOgg](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/krafton/user_avatar/forum.playinzoi.com/lennyogg/32/159_2.png) [@LennyOgg](https://forum.playinzoi.com/u/LennyOgg)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2026, 2:04am UTC](https://forum.playinzoi.com/t/topic/9498/3 "2026-01-25T02:04:19Z")
I canā€™t believe this is happening, how dare they keeping our Zois from falling in love? This is so frustrating and invasive and restrictive . . . I have no words :psycat_upset: And on top of that not even giving us a hint _why_ it canā€™t happen -.- ---
**Author:** ![JoyIsFunner](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/krafton/user_avatar/forum.playinzoi.com/joyisfunner/32/8276_2.png) [@JoyIsFunner](https://forum.playinzoi.com/u/JoyIsFunner)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2026, 2:21am UTC](https://forum.playinzoi.com/t/topic/9498/4 "2026-01-25T02:21:09Z")
I had to start over and change one of their characteristics and traits, Idk what I had to change but it worked, good thing it wasnā€™t in a long played game where I added a zoi to hookup with. ---
**Author:** ![Samuriko](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/krafton/user_avatar/forum.playinzoi.com/samuriko/32/15564_2.png) [@Samuriko](https://forum.playinzoi.com/u/Samuriko)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2026, 2:56am UTC](https://forum.playinzoi.com/t/topic/9498/5 "2026-01-25T02:56:35Z")
You can always change them with cheats, no need to start over. But I really do not like the decision the game is going with forced routines, preventing older gentlemen of having a young wife, and now traits interfering. Itā€™s as if the devs want to play the game for us. Very disappointed (if all of the above is on purpose) ![a man with long hair and a beard has disappointed on his face](https://europe1.discourse-cdn.com/krafton/original/2X/c/c1d2a4b6f551f3ff18ae02c63ba9f3cdeb826677.gif) ---
**Author:** ![treeofowl](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/krafton/user_avatar/forum.playinzoi.com/treeofowl/32/10698_2.png) [@treeofowl](https://forum.playinzoi.com/u/treeofowl)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2026, 6:24am UTC](https://forum.playinzoi.com/t/topic/9498/6 "2026-01-25T06:24:06Z")
I like that they have compatible personality traits (if thatā€™s true). In real life, you canā€™t have a relationship with just anyone; some people just arenā€™t right for you. But Iā€™d like some explanation as to which traits are incompatible