Romantic relationship and interactions problems

  • Game Version: 0.4.1

  • Platform: Steam windows

  • Mods: never used

  • Hardware Specifications & Operating System OS version

  • Steps to Reproduce: idk what to do

I don’t know what the problem is—whether it’s a bug or intentional. The point is that my Zoi is completely unable to build romantic relationships. Romantic actions sometimes work, and there is flirting. But dates are always refused, and romantic relationships go downhill. You try this and that to build romantic relationships. My Zoi wanted to figure out the nature of his relationship with some girls, whether it was friendship or something more. Once, a girl came and refused, and for some reason, his love for her ended, even though nothing had even begun. Other girls didn’t come at all, even though they had suggested meeting up themselves.

If you try to do everything in one day, both friendship and romance, the character will only have low needs, and the girl will reject him anyway. I ended up using a relationship cheat, and what happened? The same thing. Romantic interactions are still sometimes met with a negative response. I even created a new family for the experiment, a husband and wife, and it’s still the same!

I’m so tired of this. My Zoi dreams of a big family, but it’s impossible to build a relationship. I tried different approaches. I pumped up his charisma a lot, he knows how to joke. And nothing changes.

Unfortunately, they couldn’t help me here on the forum, I already wrote a question about it here. I asked other people for their opinion, they say it’s REALISM. Well, with boosted charisma, so that every girl refuses dates/romantic interactions? Very realistic.

Also, my Zoi can’t invite anyone to meet or even write a message. Only other Zoes can invite him to meet each other (and not to come) and write messages. He can do it but very rarely.

This is either the most terrible bug or, worse, an intentional idea for “realism,” to complicate everything SO much… For me, relationships are very important in a life simulator.

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I’ve also watched a video on youtube about how hard it is to find a partner, it seems it’s the total opposite of when players claimed it was too easy and Zois could marry after 20 ingame minutes a few months ago.
Video is → here

The thread OP mentioned and where we tried in vain to find a solution is → here

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Have you tried checking your gender preferences are set correctly, i.e. male attracted to female? I believe you can check this by editing your Zoi in a mirror or using the CustomZoi cheat.

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Yes, everything is correct and still have this problem. And friend relationship are fine too. Everything is fine but still having this bug or something

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Only other thing I can think of is try setting ‘romantic interactions success’ to the highest level in City Management?

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This might be the solution! Please @agusya can you try it and tell us if this works?

What personality traits does your zoi have? Maybe they are causing an issue

Another thing I have read is that appart from flirty interactions, if your zoi has stuff in common with the other zois like hobbies, or likes and dislikes, the romantic interactions are more likely to succeed.

Thanks for information! Of course im trying it right now, let’s see if it works. I’ll answer soon!

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Its really worked, i cant believe! Finally appered a choice about wanting romantic relationship and a girl is not refusing him finally. Thank you!!!

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Update: still having problems despite everything… i dont know what these Zoi needs, its better to be alone until the problem will be fixed. Im really tired of it

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@agusya Hi. I have a similar issue. I had to invite a guy for a meeting twice because he didn´t show up. He still refused me. I tried to get a romantic relationship with other Zois, and they still refused me. I used the cheat to max up their relationship, but they still refused even the confession. I succeeded with one after repeating the process of maxing the relationship and first inviting the other Zoi to move in and then confessing love and marrying them. At this point, though, I could control both Zois, so when one refused the proposal, I had the other Zoi propose.
But the text messages stopped working after a while. I can´t text anyone at all.
I have the settings right, the city’s romantic interaction success is at its highest.
And with how fast everyone´s needs get drained, it´s really tough to manage. I had two toddlers immediately after each other, and it was chaos. No one could sleep, no one could eat. I had to use cheats to keep the Zois alive so they could take care of the todlers till they aged up. And I am not sure if having the needs drained in 48 minutes day game so fast is a good idea, especially with a big family. And with everyone in the city getting to work/school, it feels like the whole city is going to die because of low energy/hunger/other needs.
It does feel tiring to play this game right now with so many things broken and unbalanced, at least for me :sweat_smile:
I know it´s early access, and I know many things are getting fixed.

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Hi @agusya , @ecaerys ,
Could you please share a screenshot of your Zoi’s gender preference settings ?
It would also help a lot if you could let us know which Zoi you tried to start a romantic relationship with.

For a more accurate check, please share your save file as well — it would be incredibly helpful for our investigation!
Here’s the instruction: How to Send User Files to The inZOI Team (Updated)

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There are saves from the November 1 only, idk why, but i suppose there are prves of my suffering anyway.

My Zoi tried with a lot of girls because of this problem

20251101-191559_AutoSave_1.usvx (4.3 MB)

20251101-191559.usvx (4.3 MB)

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i sent you files above

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