Wow! Then you are lucky. Many have lost these options. I had them still for a while but then all of a sudden, probably after one of the fixes it was all greyed out. New or old save does not change anything. No option to use these anymore. And it is the same for other players as well but intrestingly not for you so then it must be rather a bug actually… We had this issue already in this thread:
As for our own messages I cannot tell. Would be funny!